The Essential Guide for the Married Man: Principles and Lessons for Navigating a Successful Marriage and a Meaningful Life by E. Paul Allerton (Author) 4.7 4.7 out of 5 Marriage and becoming a father are two of the most important Rites of Passage in a man’s life. Unfortunately, our society no longer recognizes them as such, nor do the elder men prepare, counsel, and train the younger men to succeed in these endeavors. As a result, good men and women enter marriage with false expectations and misconceptions about how to create a successful marriage and a meaningful life.